Rap, I'm reposting this querry because it seems to me that lots of us know how to cope well - but the choosing of that over SI is the difficult part for some reason.

So, why is it that, even with an entire list of "good" coping mechanisms, there is just more satisfaction from harming the self?

What is that satisfaction? how does it hook us?

what would make us want to choose something bad for us over something good? Is it that it doesn't touch the emotional component that accompanies the urges?

Curious...
Kiya