(((Awk))) this is the work!!! This is why its GOOD that, as SD says, no they are not really human, so they are not going to be DEVASTATED that you spoke to someone else. Otoh, are they gonna be thrilled? No, not really - they really ARE human, after all. Its a paradox.

But - the more important thing is YOU. YOU need to not hide this "awful" - awkward? - truth about yourself from the other person - past, present, and future, unless of course you decide theres a really good reason to make an exception THIS time? But it shouldnt have to be our modus operandi, to stifle ourselves, just because thats how we were raised up. We shoulda been raised better. Heres our chance. Youre in t to take it.