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Old Jul 23, 2017, 04:00 PM
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Originally Posted by nyc artist View Post
No. *sigh* I'm trying to understand this and not just give up. I've told him more than either of my previous two Ts combined and this is the first time he's messed up in 5 months. I've never stood up for myself before and I feel safe enough with him to do so, so I'm going to just ask on Tuesday why he didn't make time for me. I'm going to express how much it hurt/affected me and just see how he responds.

This is a great place for support! I was a very active member about 4 years ago but then had to take a break from the internet for awhile! I did try online counseling between Ts 1 & 2 but it was really stressful for me. My counselor always left me with something to think about that was anxiety provoking and didn't come back to chat until at least 12 hours later. Then T 2 had me sign up again because she wanted to see if the counselor would suggest the same things she did...oh it was a mess! T 2 just wanted to feel superior. Now just the thought of it makes me anxious!!
I think that is a great idea to confront the T about why things happened as they did. Just to give yourself some peace of mind and let him know how it upset you. Good for you in standing up for yourself!!!!!
Glad you came back. I did the same thing , came here for a while, then got overwhelmed with all the info here and had to take a break, then came back. It shows we were trying to take care of ourselves by doing that. Coming here can be an addiction as well as a need.
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