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Originally Posted by Hinny
I relate, a good deal more than I'd like! I'm in a situation now, I feel like I gave my best, only to get another's worst. Is it me, what c/should I have done (I'm asking myself) ...I am afraid, Hon, sometimes the answers just don't add up. It hurts and I feel for you. For me, I have to convince myself, I try doing good by people. We do our best, right? No, I know that's painful x
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I can understand how you feel. In the beginning , ( over 40 yrs. ago ) , it was an opposites attract thing. It worked for awhile. We kinda made up for each other's shortcomings. But then I found out we didn't have enough in common. After awhile , when the honeymoon wears off , it takes some WORK , by both parties to keep the relationship fresh and vibrant. Some people just tend to remind you of your not so good traits and ignore what your good ones are.
If you've given your best , and you know that , then stop torturing yourself by wondering what YOU may have done , or not done. Think about what your partner has done or not done. They try to come off as " holier than thou " , blaming you for everything. Taking no responsibility for their part in it all.
How's the communication ? Probably not there . How can they talk to you and have to admit that they may have faults ? Or apologize for anything. These people don't apologize for trying to ruin you. Because if they can't use you anymore they're done with you. Let the rational part of your brain take over.
Diminish the power of negative emotions. This is part of what needs to be done.
Don't ever let anyone think they're better than you . They are not !
Actually I'm starting to pity these poor hollow individuals.
