i'm an alcoholic...and many times when I drink I get "emotional" and start texting and calling people. If your Mom felt like she needed help there was 911...that could have saved her and she didn't call.

Its no ones fault that she died...except the horrible disease of alcoholism.

I have almost died 2x in the last 3 years due to alcohol...and I knew I had a problem and struggled finding what to do about it. But, you took care of her the best you could...the level of care she needed was above YOUR payscale.

As far as your aunt...she needs someone to blame. Where was she thru the years your Mom was struggling? Ask her that.

As far as your husband...my answer to any husband/relationship question is when it is bad for SO LONG and one or the other is not WILLING to fix the relationship..its time to move on.

However, I understand the position you are in with money....and how much he controls your situation. My hope for you is that you have a friend or can find a way out and live somewhere else..even if it is in a domestic violence shelter...so you can start healing over the loss of your relationships and the great loss of your Mom.