I think this is what SD meant the other day when they were saying that you dismiss or distance yourself from the emotion. I can't quite remember how they said it. But it's okay to feel how you feel. RoboT says that the more you push against something you're feeling, the stronger you're going to feel that thing.
It makes sense that your feelings are coming in waves. You're in the process of trying to let go of a relationship that has been very important to you. There's going to be grief with any loss. You're okay, Art.
In random news, some random Spanish speaking person started texting me. They were asking me who I was, and I was like, "who am I? WHO ARE YOU??"