I have been with my wife for about 5 years and have been married for about 1.5 years and we are expecting our first child in October.
We have had our ups and downs like most couples but have been fighting more than normal for the past several months, not sure if maybe its hormones or stress or something else.
Our sex life has been non existent for quite some time other than when we were trying to conceive and I know neither of us has been doing as good of a job as we could be to make the other as happy as we probably should be.
Earlier this year I met this woman and we slowly have gotten to know each other a little better. I wouldn't even really say I know her that well at this point. I typically see this person once a week for a few hours because of work. Its usually in a group setting, we have never been alone together for more than a few minutes at a time. Over the past few weeks my attraction towards her has been growing to the point that I can't stop thinking about her. Its not just physical, although i do think she is beautiful, its hard to explain just What it is about her. Its been about a month or so that I've been feeling this way. When I wake up I'm thinking about her, when I goto bed I'm thinking about her, throughout the day I'm constantly thinking about her, even when I'm with my wife I can't help but think about her, when I close my eyes I can see her face.
I know its normal to be attracted to others and im sure its even normal to have crushes on others even while being married but I can't see how this is normal. I've been reading up on similar situations people have gone through but I'm struggling with my emotions right now.
First and foremost I want to do what's best for my child as she will be innocent and should not suffer because of my actions. After reading all of these websites one of them gave what I thought was good advice, it said to try and forget the new woman think of loving things your wife has done for you but I'm struggling to do that as I end up reverting to thoughts of the other woman even while trying to think of my wife.
I can't remember for sure but I don't think I felt this way about my wife back when we met which has me questioning is my wife really "the one" or could this new woman possibly be "the one" I can't remember ever feeling this way before. I don't know if these feelings will last or if its just infatuation but I don't want to be unfair to my wife.
I think this woman may have feelings for me as well but I can't say for sure. I want to ask her if she does because I feel like maybe if she doesn't feel the same way that will help me get over this but I don't know if that's a good idea.
I just don't know what to do, I'm at a loss with all of this. In a perfect world when my daughter is born im hopeful I will forget about this woman but the way I'm feeling right now I just don't know if that's going to happen.
I would really appreciate any advice or suggestions, I don't know where else to turn