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Originally Posted by koru_kiwi
thanks for sharing this information, but i find what you, and even lucozader, say about your experiences quite discouraging to hear. if these are the kinds of reactions that you were getting while in training to become therapists, then to me this indicates that there is very little hope that those clients who do experience ET with their T will get the proper help that they need and may even end up worse than when then they first started therapy because of a therapist's lack of training, ignorance, or incompetency to handle the ET. seems like a clients best hope is if they meet someone like you who has experienced this in therapy themselves, and from what you guys indicate, this seems rare.
i'm curious though, is there anything proactive that you guys can do or have tried to do as Ts who have experince this very phenomenon and the overall unhelpful reactions to it and bring more awareness to it within the profession?
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I agree, it is very discouraging and instantly I knew that these four other ts would do a lot of damage is someone was to express their feelings towards them. Even though I had explained that that was exactly how my t had reacted with disgust and rejection, the empathy was gone.
By doing my research on this subject I hope that it will bring to attention that there is a clear lack of training and I feel it was proactive for now anyway. It did highlight that there was a real problem and how different trainings ignore this problem.
I wrote about the damage a therapist can do and how sometimes they encourage it. I am not sure if this is consciously or unconsciously, but they do encourage it. Mostly by fostering attachment to feed their own egos.
I think that even by talking to other ts can help. It certainly did with my trading this year and my tutor has a lot of experience in trying with it. She summed it up beautifully, she said "sure, why wouldn't they, we are all sexual beings, and what a gorgeous compliment"!