Wow, Art, I just saw where you said your therapist offered to see you on a day she had previously told you that she could not see you. Ouch. Also, the remark about the longing being more interesting than the work. Another ouch. A lot of people here report that their therapists will not do therapy via email and yours sounds the same--not wanting to help you process your feelings this way. I am sorry that she has such a hard line about that. I can see how it can go badly, but honestly, what if she had replied that everything between you was okay and that she's happy to see you however you show up--angry, longing, hurt, happy, confused, etc? That would not have taken a lot of work on her end to reply with.

I really feel for you in this and hope you get the closure you need, whether that's through time and absence or a final session. I'm glad you've got other things to fill your life with that give you good energy.