In line with ruh roh:
I had a bad rupture with M last year and the only thing that saved our relationship was that he was willing to see me for a rectifying session in whatever state I was in-- in this case blind with rage-- and he sat there and took it. He was visibly shaken by what I said but he witnessed it and admitted his mistake and responsibility. If he had held up a mirror and thrown any "therapisty" stuff back at me, or tried to analyze my emotional reaction, I can say confidently that despite our healthy/ healing relationship up til that point, I never would have gone back. In subsequent sessions, after things cooled down, we went back and analyzed the situation a little, but it was always under the lens of him being 100% responsible for the hurt.