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Old Dec 22, 2007, 05:41 AM
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yes, i go numb too. I have found that the nothingness comes on when I have stressors I can't cope with. In the past that used to be a lot of things. Nowadays it is usually only when a few big things hit me at once. And a t going away on a break, or having a long time between sessions is a big thing.

When it happens to me, firstly I need to accept it. Fighting it builds anxiety or worsens it. Then I need to recognise that stressors are causing it. Work out which parts are stressed and why. Figure out ways to comfort and soothe those parts to reassure them. Then listen to them.

Having said all that, I am currently numb and avoiding the feelings as much as I can. Knowing what I can do and actually doing it are very different things indeed.

The other thing to remember is that no feelings last forever, not even numbness or nothingness. It will pass.

Sending you warm thoughts to help defrost the numbness.
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him.

Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there.

Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so.