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Originally Posted by Trace14
Absolutely, but try to practice it in a nice way that it will come across as a positive thing to them.That's where I run into trouble with it. I wait and hold it in until I'm so upset and angry then when it comes out of my mouth the anger is offensive to the other person. Then the outcome doesn't turn out that well. Sometimes writing it out, days before the encounter helps so you can go back a reread it (kind of the Prolonged Exposure thing) and edit to how you would want this to be told to you..
I hope the appointment goes well. Good luck, you can do this  |
How do you get angry? I know that seems like the stupidest question ever, but I seriously don't know how. T knows this too. I was never allowed to have emotions as a child, so I don't have them now. T keeps telling me that it's ok to be angry and I'm like..ok..so teach me. We haven't gotten to that yet. Poor guy...he's REALLY earning his paycheck with me!
As soon as I sat down today, he brought up his mistakes and he owned them, again, but his apology had little effect on me. I told him that his apologies didn't change the fact that he really let me down and wouldn't make time for me when he knew it was so important. Here again is the problem with my lack of emotions/feelings...I feel like his apology isn't sincere and he is just saying it to shut me up. I was taught at a young age that apologies meant nothing (although it was in reference to my apologies meaning nothing...family never apologized to me). I honestly don't know if he was sincere but if my past T experiences tell me anything, he doesn't care at all that he hurt me. Oh well, we move on. I don't hold grudges (for more than a week-ish
). But I am proud that I could tell him exactly how I felt, I've never been able to do that before.