Dragon,

I read my original post and had to edit it. I am trying very hard to phrase this in a way that does not make me sound unsupportive or like a bee with an itch.

You say you miss her and her supporting you, she might be the one that needs support right now. With all of the things that you two have gone through, it doesn't sound as if she's ready to forgive and forget.

If I recall correctly you and she are seeing a councelor, perhaps he could give you some advice on how to deal with your issues independently until she's ready to take on that role again. It will probably make your marriage much stronger in the long run.

I really do wish you and your wife the very best of luck and I am so happy that you both are willing to fight so hard for your marriage!