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Originally Posted by Luz22
Well I am a 24 year old female..
now its really hard for me to open up to people or more specifically to find a partner with whom I feel confortable with. After the period I was abused, I never engaged in any sexual activity and still haven't since.. but now after I started going to therapy I have this strong sexual need again and I hate it because there is this part of me that doesn't want to do the talking and getting to know someone but this other part of me won't allow me to have something casual with a stranger.. I was thinking toys and make my sexuality around that, now at 24 I know the traditional life with husband and kids its not for me... I don't know.. is this normal? is it healthy for me to decide just to go with toys? |
Hey there! So I read your post and I agree with you on some things! I've been healing on my own and in therapy from my sexual abuse and ever since I have started to feel a bit more comfortable in my body, I've felt more ready to seek romantic relationships. I still have a confusing time about sexuality as I'm on the asexual spectrum, but I've acknowledged that I can be sexual with a partner who I have a strong emotional connection with. It can't just be with anyone. I agree that toys are a very healthy way to explore your sexuality. I've gotten toys to help me explore mine and they've actually helped me work out my shame around sexuality. I still have some shame but definitely not as much as before, and toys give you control and agency. I wish you the best!
