I have put things in emails to my T before, although T never brought them up in session. I wondered if it was because if T felt I couldn't bring it up in session, that maybe I wasn't ready to talk about it.

When there have been issues to discuss where I have felt shame, we usually focus on the feelings of shame, long before we focus on the "thing" itself. My T has always discouraged me from just spilling everything out, again I wonder if that is because of the potential aftermath of talking about it.

Saying that, I would still email my T if there was something to talk about, that I found difficulty starting, with explicit instructions that I wanted T to bring it up and see what happens.