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Old Jul 26, 2017, 11:30 AM
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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee View Post
I agree 100% with treevoice. I also think you may need to keep in mind that your T likely has complicated feelings/thoughts about the situation, both as a professional and as MC's colleague (and technically his employee). It seems clear based on things that you've shared here in the past that you're protective of MC when talking to T, and it seems like you might make assumptions about what her opinions of the situation are, particularly given that she is (perhaps wisely) slow to share them with you. Add in the maternal transference and it becomes a bit of a powder keg.

I would proceed slowly and gently and try to lay out little pieces of it at a time, being very honest and deliberate about what you think and feel, and giving your T space to do the same. I do think this is a great topic for therapy, and I hope you get some useful insights out of it.
Thanks for your thoughts. Yeah, I agree on the powder keg potential. Having had an explosive/difficult session with MC last week, even though that's basically been resolved, I'm not quite ready for another one of those just yet with T.

One issue is that she *has* shared some of her opinions of the situation, which, as you said, have made me defensive in the past. But I suspect at least some of that is from the negative transference for her. Like I'm interpreting her opinions in the worst possible light.