I had a deep seeded hate for the girl/person I was…I also felt a lot of guilt about some of the choices I made that were a result of my abuse. I had a break through in therapy and was able to accept that person and be okay with the things I had done and had been done to me. Part of what helped me was continuously writing about the things I felt bad about. I also shared these letters with a friend. He wrote letters back to me sharing aspects of his abuse. When I read his letters I felt great compassion for him. I think I learned to accept myself by seeing some of me in his story.