Well in my case it wasn't a pattern, that was the only T I had that issue with and I've seen many T's. I have no problems with ET or Transference of any kind with my current T or any other past T's. Just the one T that fed into it by complimenting me inappropriately and running therapy around very loose boundaries. Which sounds a lot like what the Original Poster's T is doing. My advice was based on the fact that this T told the original Poster that they had a nice smile too and also crossed her personal space to step on her toes. Sounds like a T who is going to foster, feed and possibly intentionally create an ET - which would have zero therapeutic benefit and in my case, ended in disaster and left me worse off in the end.