Budfox-

Your original point, how I understood it, was that blank slate demeanor correlated with relational fakeness, no?

I think blank slate crap does draw out more transferences, by far. But I also think it makes the therapy more one-sided rather than fake. The therapy becomes all about your stuff, your projections, your needs, your perceptions, your inner world. So that's one way to do therapy, which isn't the reparenting type. It's more safe in some or many ways...

If you and your T are in a more two-sided relationship, therapy will include the therapist's needs (which btw are just as ****ed up as many of ours as patients). It wouldn't really be therapy, and enmeshment would be most harmful.

I don't think of it as fake, but if that's how you view it, wouldn't fake be better given the above? If not, what would your ideal therapy relationship be like (or have been like)?