This is precisely the problem. So I, for instance, who felt, or had been told, I had issues, went to the therapy "expert" only to get involved in messed up "relationships", which caused distress and confusion and all the kinds of stress that any messed up relationship can. Only I was paying money for it. Or sometimes my insurance was. And part of the issue for me was that I had very few, or no, real "healthy" relationships (you might say that the relationship with my soulmate late husband was "enmeshed" but it worked) so I had no clue what was going on. Finally after many years I kind of got one. But with a lot of c***p that went down in the meantime.

Blank slate therapy, which is what they mostly had 50 years ago when I started on my therapy "journey" didn't work well for me because I was too disconnected/dissociated from many of my feelings. Then, when I got "in touch" with them, they were still kind of separate and unsocialized. So I became dysfunctional in a different, not necessarily better, way.

I didn't realize that you were a therapist, though. So from now on, when reading your posts, I will consider the source.