please do not turn this into a thread about whether or not a T can care, whether it's real, etc etc etc.

This question isn't about that really. It's about gauging that caring and other stuff which makes some initial assumptions. There are other thread which debate the validity of therapy and caring.

ok.. my questions:

those of you who believe your T really cares and that it is real, how did you decide this? i am especially interested in whether you asked directly and what you said? Did any of you just ask how your T felt? or did you just come to that conclusion some other way? Did your T just volunteer that?

i am asking because i struggle with it. My T has been fantastic with me. i dont think that FOR ME i could accept that idea any other way than if he said it.