I'm done with therapists taking sides with people who abuse, particularly parents, and saying it's all in our hands to help people help us or help people treat us better, when people like me are in such dumps they have no power to do so. It's just one way of saying "Deal with it", when you can't!

So hereby I offer the idea of a mental health police - parent has demotivated you to life? Penalty! Feel controlled by a spouse? Have a mental health investigator investigate the spouse and make it mandatory!