I am going to offer a different perspective here based on my own experience. I suggest that you *don't* text about difficult subjects beforehand. And that you *don't* ask the therapist to bring them up for you or to make sure you talk about them.

The reason is this: any kind of sexual situation that involves power (yours involves sex work, but I am also thinking here of sexual abuse) is fraught with issues of agency and control. You have to be very aware of the potential to repeat that, to recreate that power dynamic, in your therapeutic relationship. Your past (not just yours, mine, anyone's!) will pull you into doing that.

Think about what you would be doing by texting him in advance and asking him to bring this up. You are putting him in the position of trying to get you to do something you don't fully want to do. Think about what that replicates: You will go to a room. Meet a man alone. The two of you will, in advance, have set up something you say you want...but you also don't want. I mean, to me, it seems like what you are suggesting (texting him beforehand to get him to make sure you talk about this) seems to eerily recreate the very dynamic you are talking about talking about.

If it were me, I wouldn't text him in advance. But would go to the session and talk to him about wanting to text him in advance, and your mixed feelings about wanting to talk about some things, and not wanting to talk about them.

I wouldn't talk about them until I was completely ready and completely wanted to. I had a therapist once try to "draw out" or "get" me to talk about certain things. I thought, at the time, I wanted that. But in retrospect, to me, it seemed to me like it was replicating the *very situation* we were supposedly talking about. I wish, in retrospect, my therapist hadn't "helped" me try to talk but instead just said, "You know what, you may want to talk to me about this someday, but let's not force it."

I may be totally off base here, but it's just my two cents since you asked. I know these are sensitive issues and I hope I haven't offended you or anyone else, because I truly do not mean to and I know this must be so hard and take so much courage.