I wonder if your mom was asperger-y. Some of her advice sounds like Sheldons mom - if someone is anxious, offer them a hot drink. Just follow the RULES when dealing with people, then no one can BLAME you. Well, i want more out of my relationships than just not getting blamed! I want love! I want laughter! Blah blah. But seriously, right?

I mean, you learn the rules, like you learn the rules of ballet, but in order to DANCE! To live! You dont need her being judgey.