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Old Jul 27, 2017, 07:15 PM
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Originally Posted by unaluna View Post
I wonder if your mom was asperger-y. Some of her advice sounds like Sheldons mom - if someone is anxious, offer them a hot drink. Just follow the RULES when dealing with people, then no one can BLAME you. Well, i want more out of my relationships than just not getting blamed! I want love! I want laughter! Blah blah. But seriously, right?

I mean, you learn the rules, like you learn the rules of ballet, but in order to DANCE! To live! You dont need her being judgey.
Not sure I'd say that--she's pretty extroverted. BUT she clearly also has anxiety issues. My T has said that part of why she probably isn't accepting/understanding of my anxiety is that then she'd have to accept her own. I mean, she always has trouble sleeping, but will deny it's ever anxiety, just "I have trouble sleeping." It's not that she's afraid of planes but "I don't like to fly."

But there are little things that she worries about all the time, little details that I wouldn't even think of. The example I tend to give is from our wedding planning. We were having ceremony and reception in same place. So they had to move the tables out of the way for the ceremony, then move them in for the reception. They were going to have the floral centerpieces already on them. My mom told me they couldn't have arrangements with water because the water would spill when they moved the tables. When...I wouldn't have even thought of that because i assumed they were professionals who would have moved the arrangements off the table first (or moved them without spilling water). She also worried about the size of the dinner plates at the buffet. Things like that.
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