Thanks for all your responses.

This is the first time in the space of a year that I've ever asked him to bring something up. Usually I go in knowing what I want to talk about and just say it.

I can see why some people think I shouldn't let him draw my feelings out of me and should wait until I'm ready but I actually am ready to talk about it, it's just I feel shame about what I did so am nervous to talk about it fully. We've talked about me being a sex worker before and there's been no power play between us because of it. Since I posted the first post I have been on the verge of tears lost days to my overwhelming feelings/flashbacks so I know this is something I need to deal with now rather than wait a few more weeks.

Thanks