I did. It was the one last hurdle that I needed to get through before terminating attachment therapy. I had as much difficulty getting to this part of my journey as I did detaching from the perfect mother idea. My aspirations, education and lack of career goals were still hooked to what I believed the parent unit wanted. It was very difficult to go back and finish things I left up in the air and to make amends with educators that had supported me back then. When I entered therapy I was in deep shame and quite a bit of denial about what I wanted out of life. Working with my therapist I went from shame to embarrassment to opening up doors to find what I wanted. I was able to go back to school in a field of my choosing and follow my own path. I felt I was to old body wise to do well in my childhood dream job, which I had been directed away from by my mom. Interestingly a few years ago, my mother was pushing me to pursue that dream and had no memory of the nasty comments she made to discourage me.
I must say I finally know what it is to feel happy and pleased about who I am in this world and to also feel I am making a contribution.

For me this would not have happened if I did not luck into having good therapists and them willing to talk about it as much as needed. My therapists helped me build new messages and today still cheerlead me after therapy while I pursue turning my hobby into a career of my choosing.