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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
So when you say you don't want to know something or that you don't think it's relevant (as you said today), then I feel like I'm not supposed to talk about it. And then I wonder if I should be avoiding the topic in general. Like, for example, if you don't want to know the length of the call--does that mean you don't want to know the content either? (I have mentioned some of the content, but there's certainly more I could have shared.)
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This feeling in therapy is all too familiar to me, and like you in my case I think its some kind of transference from the past.
To add an extra dimension to what you have said (which I don't disagree with in any way) - I would say that also its a case of your T failing to notice the importance to you of the issue of the phone calls and their length. In other words, an empathic failure - (not that there is anything wrong with that, they happen all the time in therapy). Anyway, it hurts.
Personally, I try to avoid talking about things that are important to me but I don't know why until I have done some sort of analysis of them, and then I bring up the analysis instead, if that makes sense. Otherwise I just end up getting upset. But whether thats the most healthy way of dealing with these things I have no idea!