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Originally Posted by cinnamon_roll
I'm from Germany myself. The German health care system has got a lot to offer in terms of therapy, you have to look and search for a little bit, that's for sure... If you check out LGBTI self-help resources you'll find plenty of contacts of LGBTI-friendly therapists.
Yes, 'officially' (on state insurance) you'll ('only') get Behavioral Therapy, or Psychodynamic (TfP), or Analytic Therapy. Which is already a lot more than you might get elsewhere. No systemic approaches are officially covered by insurance. However I've found over the years, that most therapists have done a lot of training in different aspects of therapy and most will work in some sort of "eclectic" style. Or they have added qualifications in somatic experiencing, trauma therapy, imaginative methods etc which will come into the mix as well. It's a question of finding the one that fits for you. And you can try out as many therapists you want, it's covered by insurance.
But I'm also wondering whether your long-time therapist might be right: That you might benefit more from "real" f2f contact. Also, not being an (English) native speaker myself: I've done therapy both in an English and in a German speaking context. The English was fine for current day-to-day problems. Whereas whenever things got to the "core" issues, being in a "different" language "helped" to avoid a lot of emotional stuff which would have been important as a context... Not sure I can bring across, what I'm wanting to point out. I guess, the question is: Whether your insisting on online-therapy and/or having therapy in English might be a way of avoiding what's really important and/or painful?
Just some points to think about.... Might not be the same for you.
Wishing you all the best,
c_r
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Thank you for all your input and I have to disagree with you on the part what Germany offers as I am working in the helping profession myself...when you want I like to go to PM but it pretty much depends in which area you live...e.g.: Berlin, Köln, Hamburg, München has a lot to offer for the LGBT community but then move to a smaller communities, nothing available. I did a lot of research over the years and in my wider community around 30-50km nothing useful available and in comparison with the UK e.g. London, Manchester, Brighton is this paradise, Therapist know what it feels like to be discriminated every day.
The other issue you mentioned I agree and she might be right, that she would finde a f2f contact more useful for me and would recommend me this, however she is one critical support in my life who told me this and other´s told me it does not really depends unless the work is done. Her wish is not necessarily my wish, thats hard for her to accept and she was harsh about this. As I want to bring this to a possible good ending for me I needed to tell her this.
Her reasinigng is not ethical I feel in telling me a few month ago: "You can stay as long as you want, don't worry you have a safe place here always and don't have to go anywhere for the next 2 years" as I have already planed to downsize and terminating her in 2 years.
Online- Therapy is great for my kind of lifestyle and I don't need to commute to therapy.