I think the problem with "being in love" with your therapist is that... if your therapist is doing their job correctly, you don't actually know the whole, 3-dimensional person. You see the *best* of their personality: somebody who cares, who doesn't lash out in anger, who is gentle, patient, and welcoming, and who helps keep the focus on you, rather than them.

It's not a 2-way relationship. The therapist isn't getting help or support from you, shouldn't be sharing their current issues and struggles, should be processing their own things.

So, you only see one part of the therapist. The part that is probably the most lovable! (Who wouldn't love someone that is kind, caring, patient, gentle, interested in understanding them, advocates for their best interests, and generally always focuses on them?!)

It's a little like loving a movie star. You don't really know them well enough to love them, you love the tiny sliver that you see.