LT, I have a question for you. But before I ask, I want you to apologize in advance if it appears as though I'm prodding you. I think very highly of you and enjoy reading your updates. Sometimes basic questions like mine may appear to be accusatory in writing, but that is not my intention. They are just simple questions whose answers will hopefully be able to advance your understanding of what's going on.

When you question why your T can't tell that you need to talk about the length of the phone call with MC (bolded above), a) what did you hope her reaction would be?, and b) what does it mean to you that he spent as long as he did on the phone with you?

You obviously wanted to talk about the length of the phone call because it was important to you. My question is... why? I think I understand why, but I'm curious if you can answer that question for yourself.

Please don't get upset at me for saying this, but I suspect your transference for MC is romantic and you are afraid to admit it to yourself and others for a number of reasons., including the fact that you're seeing MC for marriage counseling (I believe you experienced some opprobrium from members of this forum a while back for that reason). And by denying you experience romantic feelings for MC you are protected from uncomfortable feelings it may invoke.

You don't need to answer this question for me. I am nobody and I don't need to know. But you are a thinker, and I think it would be helpful for you to think about this to advance your understanding of what's going on.

Thank you for sharing your story with us. Forgive me if I am way off base. I'm just trying to help, I assure you. Sometimes being uncomfortable is an important part of growth.