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Old Jul 29, 2017, 06:15 PM
Calilady Calilady is offline
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Originally Posted by anais_anais View Post
I am extremely attached to one of my Ts. In my own avoidant and inarticulate way, I have communicated the depths of this attachment to him-- and he has picked up on these clues and been very supportive. He is one of those Ts that encourages attachment as part of the therapy process- for me I have never been attached to anyone, so I have had to learn it with him. He gives me touch whenever I want or need it, and goes out of his way to let me know he's there for me. That said, there is absolutely no out-of-session contact- it's scheduling only, unless I am particularly shaken up by something in session, then I may call that week. This strict boundary frustrates me sometimes but I'm also very glad it's there, balancing the intimacy of our sessions.
That's key when they are able to read between the lines and the clues that we drop along the way.
When my tiny morsels of veiled revelations are dropped and not picked up , I begin to detach and lose faith.

I'm glad yours did!