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Originally Posted by unaluna
(((LONESOME))) Are you ready for another of my dumb metaphors?  I think what your MC (and my t) does is like when you go to Cordon Bleu cooking school in france - they teach you how to break an egg. That is, the start from scratch and show you the right way. They dont assume you already know, or try to "correct" the way you do it now. They just have you do it the right way, over and over and over.
When i went to manicure school, same thing - it was, forget how you USED to do it, this is how you are going to do it now. So its like, they refuse to even get into reenacting old patterns. You can try, but youre on your own.
Whereas your t, i hear her saying, oh that might be reenacting, i wouldnt DO that! Then dont, b! |
Thanks, Una. That metaphor makes sense to me. It's like MC is trying to teach me the stuff I should have learned in childhood. He's trying to rewrite my "schemas" (which is something he talks about at times).
Whereas T...she's coming at it from a different angle. She's said how my mom and I were a bad fit, she can see how I learned some negative messages in childhood...but it's like she's trying to work with me where I'm at now rather than address those issues. Like at first she tried to do CBT with me for panic/anxiety, but I think my brain overrides that or something. It just doesn't work. We've talked about my childhood and my parents, and she'll seem sad about it and say what they should have done for me...but that doesn't really help me now.
I feel it's like...I have an underlying illness, and T's trying to treat the symptoms. Whereas MC is trying to treat the root cause. Giving me supplements and stuff like my integrative doctor, instead of, say, Tylenol.
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