Sanosukeskitten, I am sorry for the sudden loss of your husband. The reactions of the families sounds difficult too. We all grieve in different ways when we are able to grieve. Sometimes grieving is delayed until we get over the shock of the changes. It is okay to grieve in your own way. When people grieve, some people cry and some do not. Some join support groups and have a therapist and others work things out in their own way. It is all okay however you grieve.