therein lies the problem for me anyway, i think. my t used my attachment too as part of the healing process. she (i guess) just didn't know how to keep my attachment from turning into emotional dependency and then once it did, she didn't see it, and neither did i, so we weren't able to 'correct course' when we should have to prevent this ultimate collapse of the whole thing. that's my two cents anyway on my own situation 11 days out from my last session.