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Originally Posted by BayBrony
That didn't make sense to me either. My T and i are going through a gigantic rupture right now. The attachment is the thing that keeps me working on stuff. Which today led to a realization about how I disown my own power in an attempt to placate mother figures.
Without the attachment i would have bailed because it hurt too much and tbat issue would still be under the surface.
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Well true and yeah I can see how for awhile, my attachment did keep me working on stuff. But what I'm trying to articulate and failing is that my attachment somehow became more than that - it became emotional dependency and so basically I was relying on her to fill needs that I should have been working on learning to fill for myself - the very deep-seated need for maternal approval - like it was easier to just let her meet it and not work on it - and neither of us saw that that was happening.