I think the emotional attachment and bonding is that which goes beyond what the T could and should provide. When we begin to seek things from a T that they can't offer and goes beyond them being an avenue of self-reflection.

My wounding is not your wounding. We all have very unique emotional scar tissue. Im sure for some, it can and has worked but with my nature and the way I'm built, I wouldn't seek to become emotionally tied to a person who cannot reciprocate it. I become drawn to a certain type of person, only to play out the situation again and again.