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Old Jul 30, 2017, 06:36 PM
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Originally Posted by nyc artist View Post
This breaks my heart for you. I think you explained very well and your frustration is very well placed. I don't understand why your PE therapy had to end when there is so much going on.

"I guess in my life I didn't identify events as being traumatic, just seemed to be normal life for me." - This. I could have written this myself. I completely get it.

I think it's a great idea to give her what you have written. Since you aren't comfortable just yet with possibly talking to her one on one, reading what you have written will help her understand you better and she'll know better how to help. I'm not sure how that group works, but I know you said it wasn't focused on trauma, do you talk at all? Or is it more like DBT and you just learn coping skills?
Well PE therapy is focused on one index trauma. But going through that trauma lead to the the other traumas. I feel like I have three index traumas, and many more below that on the list.

CPT seems to be the same way so far. The initial impact assignment wanted to know a little about the index trauma but no details. It wanted who was at fault, how it has impacted me, etc. Just skirting around the details. Unfortunately there doesn't seem to be any people here that have gone through the CPT therapy to advise if it will be more detail later or not. I don't even know if the facilitator would want to know about past traumas and/or details. I would feel pretty foolish putting that on her and then her say she didn't need to know all that.

So I guess it does focus on trauma a little, but maybe more about developing skills to identify why you feel the emotions that you do and are they justified. I do talk some, when no one else does. I'm content in being quiet and listening and trying to figure out how this applies to me. Often I drift off to some other place and then come back to group in a rather confused state, wondering what I missed. I don't know I've checked out mentally until I come back. I've tried grounding exercises to try to stop doing this but it hasn't worked very well. I guess the strength of the mind wanting to leave the situation is stronger than attempt to ground. Not sure that makes sense.

I tried DBT earlier and wasn't in a place for that to benefit me. Seemed triggering and there were a lot of women in there that were very emotional which triggered me. So I had to leave. The CPT is all guys except for me. I hope that doesn't keep them from talking. Doesn't seem to right now. But they may be thinking that I'm not talking because of them.

I think all the groups are beneficial but that you need to be in the right space in your therapy for them to be fully understood.
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