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Originally Posted by sophiesmom
It's important to recognize and deal with why you are the way you are IF you have access to a therapist who can help you with this.
But you don't seem to have help readily available. I'm not a pro anything. And my parents did a fair amount of damage to me, too. However, that doesn't define who I am. The things I mess up on or can't do, might be due to them, but does that matter now? Not to me it doesn't. That knowledge doesn't give me a reason or an excuse to work on myself , by myself, when I am able.
You seem to be pointing the finger at them for everything. But what does that accomplish?
I tend to call it like I see it and yes, your parents ****ed up. But you can't go back and change that. What you have to do is make decisions for yourself.
Life is a series of choices. Sometimes you pick one and it's the right one. Sometimes you pick one and it's that waaaaay suckyest one. But we pick ourselves up and try again, with our next choice.
You seem to know it's wrong to stay in bed all day. Now you know it's wrong, what can you do about that?
You seem to know it's unhealthy to be online all day. What can you do about that?
You seem to know that it would be better at your grandmothers. What will you do about that?
What can you do now, to improve your situation? Do you want to do it?
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That part aside - an update.
I called my Dad weeks ago, he says every week he will come at my request but didn't. Now he promised he will be here today at 3 pm. He did not as much as contact me to tell me he can't make it. He is at a wedding (distant relative) which clearly took priority over me feeling unwell, like everything else. His phone isn't working but he could have borrowed it.
I rang grandma, his Mum, and she already answered with a "what is it?". Then she said she is a bit ill and she said goodbye in possibly a minute of talking. She does not even talk to me very long.
So I am needing serious advice. I have been in bed for more than two months, I don't see that changing very soon. "Dad" may come tomorrow or never, considering what's been going on, and he was supposed to help me. It's incredibly depressing. Staying just with grandma I wonder ... She can not help me get a job or even introduce me to anyone there. I don't want to just wait for nothing there ... The uncle she lives with is out of the house most of the day. I just don't know.
Dad could potentially be helpful but you see this? I will wait until tomorrow but then I should make a decision. To go to hers or stay? But I can't because I can't stay in bed anymore.
I can't believe what is going on.