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Originally Posted by lucozader
Myrto... You've been very kind to me before regarding my feelings about/attachment to my T, and I guess that's partly why I feel kind of hurt by this. Your tone comes across as quite judgemental to me.
It's great that you escaped from attachment as you did, but you can only speak for yourself. You can't tell us what is happening for us. I don't expect my T to love me, or want to be his favourite - at least not on any rational level. I'm not demanding anything from him. I am well aware of what his role is and what he can and can't provide me with. Knowing that doesn't change my feelings.
It's also not the case for me that I am attached to him because I am lonely or unfulfilled in my life or relationships. I have plenty of loving relationships with friends and family. My life is busy and interesting. My reasons for being attached are different to yours, and I expect everyone has their own particular reasons. I don't relate to your theories about not being able to handle a give/take relationship and I'm somewhat offended by that assumption.
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I'l sorry you feel jugded by my post. I can assure you I wasn't thinking about your case when I wrote my post. None of it applies to you. But you can't deny that several people on this very forum ARE expecting love from their therapist and want to be their favourite. My point is that it's very likely that it will end badly. Sure there are exceptions. But they're that: exceptions. A lot of people in therapy tend to lack other sources of support and are pretty isolated. This isn't a judgment: I used to be that way too. But relying solely on a therapist for support and emotional needs often leads to dependency and even enmeshment. Again, you only need to read this forum to see plenty of cases like that.