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Originally Posted by DodgersMom
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I just am curious why therapists are not "real people"?
Yes we all know they have lives outside us, people they care about etc... that still does not make many of our feelings any less real.
This forum overall is very negative, I've brought up many of my concerns related to this forum to my T... he is always telling me to make sure I bring stuff up, He is not every other therapist, every story is different. I need to focus on our story. So that's what I am trying to do, and what everyone should do.
It comes down to the client and their T..... how they feel about this, how they work it out,etc is up to them. Every one of us will have a different way things unfold...
I am 100% sure my feelings are real. I don't have to KNOW someone extremely well to wish we could be friends. Hell, I've known people for years who are friends to a degree, and I don't know that much about them. Sometimes we just hang out for game nights etc.
Anyway this thread turned really sad.... it is starting to come down to making people feel bad/wrong for having attachment issues and that is not ok.
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Therapists are not real people to me because they're not part of my life. That is why I go to see a therapist: because they can be objective about my situation and have no stakes in my life. For some people it can be a relief to not have to care about your therapist, to just go in, talk and then leave. If you think your feelings are real and are happy with your therapeutic relationship, then why care about what I think? I guess I'll stop posting about this because 1) people don't want to hear about it and 2) it's really not much skin off my nose what people do in their therapy. All I was offering was a warning, based on the many hurt people of this forum.