ok, a lot, if not all, of us are on a forced break right now due to the holidays. i thought it would be nice to support each other on one common thread. Some of us have support messages, etc set up or other such things, some dont... but we can help each other anyway. Maybe something my T said can comfort someone else, or vice versa.

YES whining and being completely pathetic are allowed. YES being all ticked off is allowed. ALL feelings about the holiday therapy break are allowed. I LOVE HIM/HER. I HATE HIM/HER. WHATEVER.

talk about how you are coping... are you doing so by being angry? Do you tell yourself you wont be going back anyway? Do you keep yourself busy? Do you leave messages or emails as if he/she were still there?

do you have a way to reach T in an emerg? Do you have other supports?

everything and all things related to T and the holiday break welcome.
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i'll start it off...

i asked my T for a voicemail.. and we both agreed that he sucks at leaving just vague messages, but he is awesome when he is answering something. So i called with a list of a few questions and he answered those. He did a bang up job.

i asked about how i could keep connected and he said to think about what had been said that made me feel that, to use imagery, and that it was definitely there. i asked about how he said i had been doing well and i wanted to know what he meant or why.. he gave me several examples of things he felt were progress, and he said that recently i had been more open and trusting. He said he wasn't going anywhere, no time limits or dates or anything like that on therapy.. and he said there just wouldn't be as long as i wanted to be there. He said he knew there would be times when i would block out thinkgs i need to work on and he felt it was his job to remind me of what i had talked about. He said a lot of reassuring things because he knows i need that. He again thanked me for his gift (and again that little bit of almost kiddy excitement crept out ) and told me he had eaten a lot of the cake already.

it was a very useful and calming message.

he booked me in the first day he is back and encouraged me to leave him messages to help me "get it out there."

i miss him and it's 11 days till i see him. So far i am ok.