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Old Aug 01, 2017, 11:08 AM
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Originally Posted by fijiisland View Post
Yes, I have "talked" with a lot of married men, and there are ALL kinds!! Some are just cheaters and will never stop! others are not getting sex and thats what drove them to it and they wouldn't have otherwise.
This one claims he had an affair for a few years and said he thinks it saved his marriage. I do think he feels lonely and needs attention. I am trying to hold myself back because you never know what is true and what isnt!! He does say thing so me like "I hope you are happy with me", "I need to start working out to keep up with you",

I know he will never leave his wife and I dont want him to. I did mention to him that he is probably seeing other women and he claims he's not. I dont' think he is but he could be?? Sometimes I think I am in love with the whole affair thing and not really him. Though I do like him and like what we have. He did say "is it bad that I really like you", I didn't answer. then he said "sorry, he shouldn't be talking like that because he doesn't want to ruin what we have"

I have had other affairs and this I have to say is the best one. Yes, I know it is wrong. I just posted this because I try to figure people out
My therapist says that's a waste of time trying to figure out what's on other people's minds or why they do what they do. BUT it's not waste of time figuring out WHY you do what you do and what's on your mind. Debating and analyzing why this dude cheats or what he means by this or that will not uncover life's mystery and won't really give you insight into anything.

There is no deep meaning or profound truth in things this guy says. But working on why you do what you do will give you good insight on your own life. And that might uncover profound truth and mystery of life.
Thanks for this!
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