I may have to play 'devils advocate' and open up a little about my own therapy... Duchess (my T) is one of the best trauma therapists in the western US. No lawsuits, 1000's of clients, no reports on her record. One of the reasons why I sought her out. She is different with each and every client. She isn't the same for everyone. With me (and some) she is very open, very close to me. Gifts are allowed. Open communication via calling and texting has always been and will always be available. I know she honestly loves me, and it isn't an act. It is because of this relationship and the honesty behind it, that has caused me to open up and get the help that I need.

The part that worries me about your present therapist is: "She totally minimized things i have gone through so I didn't feel able to bring it up to talk about. She also use to give me a disapproving look when I would try and bring up certain topics so I would avoid it and then there were other topics if I tried to bring up she would just focus on some other part of the story and not what I needed to talk about." This is concerning, however, the relationship you two have, has it not allowed you to open up? You said she is the first you have opened up to, perhaps there is actual reason in the 'madness' your work therapist sees?

I think you should bring up your concerns (mainly those of the work therapist) with your current regular therapist. I hope I'm not out of line but some therapists don't understand other T's approaches, and does you work T know what you are working on with your regular T?