That does sound hard to hear, bluebicycle. It was brave of you to ask, and to listen through it. I hope you don't mind if I share some things I've read or learned, I don't mean to sound like I'm giving a lecture.

Even disorders that we think of as biological or genetic often have correlations with trauma, including, for instance, schizophrenia and bipolar. Abuse in childhood is often a predictor for earlier onset or more symptoms or more rapid cycling in bipolar or more psychosis symptoms in schizophrenia, etc. Personally, I feel this has to mean that therapy for past traumas could also be healing, and could greatly lessen the effects of bipolar or schizophrenia. Colin Ross is an MD psychiatrist and researcher who has a fair bit of data to support that idea, that substantial healing is possible even for the biological disorders. There's also a lot of research on neuroplasticity and epigenetics, which involve the ideas that psychological healing could shift brain function or even the expression of certain genes.

A few decades ago they thought there was no recovery possible after someone had had a stroke. That certainly isn't our thinking now, when people have strokes we put them into physical therapy, speech therapy, etc. So, in the past, sometimes the professionals have been known to be overly pessimistic.

But I don't think any of us should minimize our own struggles, because seeing them fully is part of having self compassion. Perhaps you could re-frame what she said as a list of all the things you are struggling through and somehow dealing with. You're getting on with it, and good on you. It shows you work hard, and you should cut yourself some slack maybe? Maybe this could help you be kind to yourself, if thought of in the right way. But I don't think we should feel defeated by diagnoses, because nobody knows the future for certain, and often -- historically -- more healing is possible than the professionals have been trained to think.