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Originally Posted by treevoice
I'm sorry to hear that you've been struggling with this. I too have gone through emotionally-driven "friend" purges, and I always find myself regretting it after the fact, but then feel too embarassed to go back and add these people again. I think it's normal to feel frustrated/hurt by being ignored that way. We are hard-wired social animals. But something in our culture has shifted; it seems like people - especially the younger generations - don't seem to have the social skills to handle each other. I once deleted a friend under similar circumstances, I had opened up and was then ignored and deleted him when I became hurt. I ran into him years later, and he told me how sad he was that I deleted him and that he just didn't know what the right thing to say would have been. My point is, you never know what they are thinking/feeling. It may just be that they don't have the emotional intelligence to respond to you. There's nothing wrong with your feelings, it makes sense to be upset by being ignored. But we're all just humans doing the best we can with what we know. Wishing you love and healing. <3
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I understand all of that, but he could have just acknowledged my message. I am not expecting him to solve my problem, just to show me that he heard me. But seeing him using Facebook and online on messenger while my message is not even opened by him doesn't indicate that he has nothing to say. It means he is ignoring me, or showing me that he has something else more important to do than reading (not even responding to) my message. I don't regret my move, because this isn't how friends are supposed to treat each others. But it seems that I was wrong to consider him as a friend. Aren't my feelings and action legitimate? What concerns me is that it seems normal for people to do this, and others don't seem to be bothered by it. That is why I feel myself as oversensitive. I am not saying others are not sensitive, but my feelings are usually very strong that I take extreme reactions like deleting them altogether.