Quote:
Originally Posted by starrysky
Jennifer is right, there are many books on being sensitive and highly sensitive. I am also highly sensitive. There is a book I read a long time ago called The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron. She has written a lot of books on the topic. It was a good book, and even empowering, because of the way she talked about it.
I myself would be very hurt if someone ignored me, in Facebook messenger, or in real life. And it has happened before too in my lifetime. I don't think it is necessarily an overly sensitive issue. I have read about the psychology of humans, and we seem as a whole, like it hurts us when we are ignored and rejected. There have been experiments done on it. I'm sure it probably hurts certain people more than others, though that's nothing to be ashamed of in my opinion.
Anyway, I'm sorry that happened to you Mr. Stranger, and I would say, good going on your part, for unfriending him. I WAS wondering how much time you gave him to respond. But I'm assuming it was at least a day. Things do come up for people. Was he the kind of person who is kind and compassionate? Because if he was, maybe you could tell him how you felt. But that is up to you. Maybe he is just not a good friend.
You deserve to have good friends, Mr. Stranger. Everybody does.
|
Yes, it was a day later that I unfriended him. What bothered me a lot is that he was pressing "like" and active on Facebook. Hadn't he appeared and been active, I wouldn't have made my move. He responded to me before and he was OK I think, but he always played with me this game, to wait before he replies, which I don't like at all. I feel he is trying to make himself feel important if he delayed his replies or something. I was OK with it when the messages were not very personal, like "Hi! how are you doing these days?". But This time I told him very personal stuff and revealed to him my weaknesses in a personal issue, yet he responded to my first message coldly, and for the second one as a reply to his reply, he ignored completely for a day, while he was active. I have to say this, that he never shared with me his personal stuff, but I naively did, several times. I think our friendship was one way, and I didn't know that before.
Thanks for the suggestion for the book. I believe I came across it before but somehow I forgot all about it. I will try to read it this time.
Thanks all for the replies.