Hubby and I are both bipolar. Neither of us knew we were until later in our marriage, though. We'll be celebrating our 29th year of marriage this month. We do struggle with depression and I have to admit I get on his case when he just lies around, not doing anything. But we both are faithful to each other, to our meds, and to our mental-health appointments. It's not the "perfect" issue in a marriage.

I personally would be bothered by dating/having sex with a married man, especially when he tells me his wife has been unfaithful. And what caused his stroke? How is his physical health? Is he properly medicated and seeing mental-health professionals? Why did he tell you all these things so early in the relationship?

I definitely would be slow in any commitment to him, as the other folks say.