I agree with the intent of this thread, and thank you for starting this discussion.

As in so many cases, the words that get bandied about (the ones you've all highlighted) have been for so long, twisted around, and utilized too often to cause pain. Speaking only for myself, it really depends on who is saying them, and under what circumstances they are being used, which determines whether or not they are triggers for me or whether or not I find them upsetting.

There will always be less enlightened people who will shame whoever they like for whatever purposes it serves for them. Although, re-claiming a lot of words does help maintain dignity, and remove some weapons from their arsenal.

We're really just at the beginning, historically speaking, of any kind of open discussion about these things. I would love to see US be the ones who decide which language to use to describe ourselves...and also to clarify, for the unknowing, the importance of accuracy and correctness, out of respect for the individual, that should attend any discussion of these topics. (But, then again, I have always been hopelessly optimistic.)

In any event, with social media at our disposal, it's much more likely to happen.

Get ready for a protracted and exhausting battle on this front! It's going to take a long time for people's ideas to change.