So I'm very new here, but something that has caught my attention reading the other posts, I am using my old relationship status to not move forward in my current relationship. Let me explain: I was married for 4 years and one day when I came home from work my then partner had emptied his closet and left. A lot of fights later we separated and never got divorced (I don't even know if he is still alive). I ended all our mutual friendships (I don't like to be gossiped about) and got rid of everything we built together, it's weird I know. This was six years ago. My current partner wants to get married, but I'm afraid and using the "currently married" thing to put it off. We have been engaged for 4 years, but I'm still afraid it could turn ugly once we're married. I like it the way it is now. I'm so confused...